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The Four Different Attachment Styles
Which attachment style do you have?
Secure Attachment Style — A secure attachment is developed in childhood when the child regularly gets their needs met. They feel comfortable around their parents and exhibit a clear understanding of how they should be treated. The child feels safe, nurtured, and in touch with their parents. Adults with a secure attachment feel comfortable with their emotions and relationships; they know how to draw boundaries, express their emotions in a healthy manner, and feel secure and connected to their partners. They also are not afraid to leave an unhealthy relationship because they recognize and understand that it is harmful to them. They are also capable of handling rejection because they know it’s not the end of the world if it happens. Overall, individuals with a secure attachment form trusting and long-lasting relationships.
Anxious Attachment Style — An anxious attachment is developed in childhood when the child receives an inconsistent amount of love and care; the child is oftentimes left feeling empty and confused. Adults with an anxious attachment style feel nervous and insecure about their relationships. These individuals need constant reassurance and communication to feel peace within themselves. There is also a lack of trust from these people because they have a difficult time believing that…
