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Overcoming Limerence
Tips on how to battle limerence, one step at a time.
1. First and foremost, limerence is about YOU, not THEM. We idealize because we are lacking something within ourselves. Whether that be certain characteristics in them that we are envious of or loneliness that kills us from the inside out, limerence is a reflection of what's missing on the inside. Once you realize that, you can fill in those voids without putting another person on a pedestal.
2. Giving in to your fantasies is only going to make matters worse. I guarantee you will go down the rabbit hole every time you indulge in these perfect fantasizes. I KNOW it’s hard to stop yourself but you have to snap back into reality whenever you feel yourself slipping. Make sure to be as realistic as possible about the situation. Tell yourself that they won’t be with you in the long run. It’s hard to do when our minds want to make us happy with what if’s, but use that smart brain of yours! Emotions are great but in times of crisis, it can really cloud our judgment. So use your logic.
3. Yes, you are desperate. Yes, you are needy. And yes, that’s okay. When it comes to limerence I noticed that many people are afraid to face the underlying issues related to it. Ask yourself, why are you so desperate for this person? What does it say about yourself? And then fix it. Or try to. Or…
