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Overcoming Limerence

Karin Cho
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3 min readMay 9, 2019

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1. First and foremost, limerence is about YOU, not THEM. We idealize because we are lacking something within ourselves. Whether that be certain characteristics in them that we are envious of or loneliness that kills us from the inside out, limerence is a reflection of what's missing on the inside. Once you realize that, you can fill in those voids without putting another person on a pedestal.

2. Giving in to your fantasies is only going to make matters worse. I guarantee you will go down the rabbit hole every time you indulge in these perfect fantasizes. I KNOW it’s hard to stop yourself but you have to snap back into reality whenever you feel yourself slipping. Make sure to be as realistic as possible about the situation. Tell yourself that they won’t be with you in the long run. It’s hard to do when our minds want to make us happy with what if’s, but use that smart brain of yours! Emotions are great but in times of crisis, it can really cloud our judgment. So use your logic.

3. Yes, you are desperate. Yes, you are needy. And yes, that’s okay. When it comes to limerence I noticed that many people are afraid to face the underlying issues related to it. Ask yourself, why are you so desperate for this person? What does it say about yourself? And then fix it. Or try to. Or…

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Authentics
Authentics

Published in Authentics

A safe place for free hearts to express there authentic selves and inspire other's to seek their truth.

Karin Cho
Karin Cho

Written by Karin Cho

Author of “Moonlight Confessions” now available on Amazon! Email: writerkarincho@gmail.com • IG: @seoulstrawberry

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I just watched Coach Lee YouTube video on what Limerence is. And your article in regards to Limerence is right on point. You gave the best roadmap in dealing with someone that you had a relationship with, that may be experiencing Limerence with the…

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my dictionary search didn't find the word, thanks for the lesson.

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Limerence-I have an advanced college degree and have never before heard of this word. Thank you for the concept.

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